"Knock that shit off" - insecurities

Cobe Soldo is a blogger, newsman, emcee, and now advice column writer. Enjoy.

Everyone has certain insecurities. Various things about their body, thinking powers and clothing choices. What's so strange is the supposed gender disparity regarding insecurities. It has become so "the norm" for women to rely on their significant others for magic cures for their insecurities that I suspect many young women are simply making that shit up to more typify a "normal girlfriend".

Everyone is, at least somewhat concerned with their appearance, and unhappy about some of it. A man is only expected to talk about it if he is pointedly insecure- to the point of near-neurosis. Women, on the other hand, get away with ridiculously lavish demonstrations of "exactly how" insecure they feel. This is the first time I've been out of a relationship for more than 2 months since beginning the first one. Feeling apart from women now, I feel much less sympathetic to this "plight".

If someone spends time with you, has wild sex with you, and performs oral sex on you without turning their head and saying "got damn! yuck!", then chances are you are beautiful to them. There is no reason to badger them into constantly complimenting you. What's worse, for a man who fires alot of compliments at my significant others, they make it more difficult than that courteous act. Some of the most obnoxious times I've spent alone with women was when I reassured them, and they argued with me about it. Why?

I honestly think many women are simply reasurring themselves of their gender roles. Society says they shouldn't feel good about themselves, they should break open their boyfriends and find their self-worth, like in a fortune cookie. Well, I, not being sexist, know that women who are slaves to societal standards are just as culpable as the men who are.

One of the sexiest, most gorgeous and impressive things a woman can do is feel good about her appearance, and not pretend that she's not worthy of her boyfriends love. Confidence is just as arousing to the eyes of men as it is to the eyes of women. Then again, maybe I'm just a feminine man(we're better at sex).